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The connection remains once the pain subsides

It will always be painful, you will always miss and love the person you lost. But the intensity of the pain and the overwhelming preoccupation changes. And that isn't really your choice. It's a natural organic process that you're not in charge of. The only thing you can do is find ways of supporting yourself to navigate that process as it comes through your system. It’s important to allow that to happen.

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Grief and Loss

Self-Care Makes us Stronger

We have all heard the instructions of an airline attendant reminding us to put on our own oxygen mask before we help anyone else with theirs. The advice is often cited as a metaphor for self-care because it so accurately expresses why it is important. It seems to say, ironically, that if you can’t take… Continue reading Self-Care Makes us Stronger

Grief and Loss, Mental Health, Suicide Loss Survivors, Supporting a Suicide Loss Survivor

The Stop Technique

At the expense of dating myself, there is a children's toy played with back in the day called “A Viewmaster.” You would place a round disc of small pictures on it into this plastic viewer, click a lever to advance the pictures around as you would view them. The Stop Technique will have you select one picture… Continue reading The Stop Technique

Survivors Guilt
Grief and Loss, Suicide Loss Survivors

Survivor’s Guilt

Guilt is the one negative emotion that seems to be universal to all survivors of suicide, and overcoming it is perhaps our greatest obstacle on the path to healing. Guilt is your worst enemy because it is a false accusation. You are not responsible for your loved one’s suicide in any way, shape, or form.… Continue reading Survivor’s Guilt

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Surviving through Writing — Guest Post by George Ochoa

Surviving through Writing by George Ochoa I am a writer, and so was my only child, Martha Corey-Ochoa, until she killed herself. It was the family business. My wife and I worked at home as freelance writers for most of Martha’s life. As soon as Martha learned to write, she began working alongside us in… Continue reading Surviving through Writing — Guest Post by George Ochoa